Bible Lesson 209

GOD’S APPOINTMENT OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY. GENESIS 1:27-28

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and said to them, BE fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Genesis 1:27-28.

“A home with a loving and loyal husband and wife is the supreme setting in which children can be reared in love and righteousness and in which the spiritual and physical needs of children can be met.”

David A. Bednar

This month’s subject will be Marriage and Family. This is a subject that should be on the minds of every true Christian; because our country (America) and I am sure that many others are suffering from our misunderstanding and non-commitment to Marriage and Family. Marriage is the oldest institutions that we have today and Family is right alongside it.

We know from the Word of God, that marriage and family was on the mind of God as He created the Heavens and the Earth. God made the first man (Adam), from the dust of the earth, and then caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, then God took a rib from Adam (Male) and made Eve (Female). Prior to creating Eve, God had said that “it is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

Now watch how God works to teach us certain things. God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.” (Genesis 2:18-22).

It was understood by Adam that he was a creature that was higher and worth much more than any of the animals that God formed. The Woman was out of man, and was to be a helper for Adam. When Adam saw Eve, he said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” (Genesis 2:23).

God then performed the first marriage, He united Adam and Eve, which constituted the beginning of the family. God apparently desired relationship and hence He created the heavens and the earth, and the vegetation, animals and all things that would support human and animal life.

We know that nothing is beyond God’s creative ability, and so we have to realize that God could have created, at the beginning, all of the people that exists at the present time. However in His benevolent grace, and not having to be in a hurry, He created one man and one woman, and He gave the woman to the man as his wife, his mate, his partner, his completer, and they began a relationship.

The first couple were created by God in innocence, and so they were naked and unashamed. We don’t know much about the family life of the first couple but we do know that they were happier, and more satisfied than they would have been if they were alone. Relationships have been the object and marriage the glue that holds couples, families and tribes together. Relationships carry with them the demand for respect, caring, duty, honesty, loyalty, responsibility, compassion, and perseverance.

The society that we live in has forgotten most of those demands, and now relationships are carried on for selfishness, on the part of one or the other of the partners, financial reasons, and numerous things that are for the benefit of one of the partners. Under God, relationships are to be lasting and loving, benefiting both parties as they find comfort and fulfillment in each other. I believe that we have lost touch with God as we have acclimated to sin and the confusion of life that exists all around us today. We have lost the Truth from God’s Word, the Bible, and we tend to live for today and for ourselves in today. We have no idea that God intends that proper relationships, will provide the happiness, joy and fulfillment that comes when God’s Word is our rule and guide in life. Why do you suppose that we have not patterned our lives after God’s commands, precepts, and statutes’ They are several reasons that are apparent, first we became too involved in the world, we became lazy, too lazy to seek the Truth of God’s Word the Bible, and we grew ‘itching ears’, ears that desired and demanded to hear only that which lifted up our flesh and egos from those who preach to us. Instead of men being men, and women being women, we tuned out what God said to the creatures in the beginning. God specified that men should ‘rule’ over women; and that speaks of being the Shepherd of the household, to govern over the family, to arbitrate and be the final authority in the family, just like Christ rules his church and exercises final authority.

In a godly family unit, there would normally be input from the obedient wife to the Christian husband for his consideration, but the final world will be the husbands. That means also that even in a family that is lost and worldly, the prescribed Word of God for the husband to be the head remains to be obeyed, if the marriage is to go as they should go. (Genesis 3:16; Ephesians 5:22-25; 1st Corinthians 11:3). Just as God drove Adam and Eve out of the garden because of disobedience, (eating of forbidden fruit), God has removed his hand from some marriages, some families, and some churches, for the sin of disobeying God’s rule for men to be the shepherds and heads of their families. We can discuss, disagree, and argue and fume and fight over it; but it stands just as God inspired it to be written, and we are paying and will pay in the Day of Judgment for our disobedience. Not only will the mannish females be condemned, the girlish males will be also. God set in place the marriage before the family and we will be looking at the American family which will probably reflect the families in most other countries, in our next installment of this series of Bible Lessons. If the marriage is not right the family cannot be right. Children grow up in families that are dysfunctional and chaotic, and they, like monkeys see what they see, and do what they see being done. That is a sad condition that too many fathers and mothers have neglected to see and correct before it is too late.

We mentioned previously that we have lost Biblical Truth and that has caused most of the upset and decay in marriages today. Most of us have grown up in a world that is on the ‘fast-forward’ position. Things like values and beliefs and standards, pass in what seems to be a blur. That happens so quickly that we don’t have time to understand what has happened. Marriages as instated in the very beginning of the World, as a union between one man and one woman, have in these last few months been set aside in favor of marriages between same sex individuals. These individuals are people who care not for God nor for His Work and His World. We all seem to want to agree with both sides in this miscarriage of justice. God will not allow us to agree with anything except what He has said, and He instituted marriage as between One Man and One Woman, for a reason that should be obvious, and that is for the population of the world. We need to understand that a marriage between a man and a man or a woman and a woman cannot reproduce. That is the reason that God is against the sin of Homosexuality, because it completely stops God’s plan for replenishing our population. Every argument in our time has pit what God has decreed, and what sinful man demands.

God will always win the argument and we should not ever take the sinners part against God decree. We love all sinners enough to tell them the truth, as God has stated truth, and God has said that homosexuality is an abomination to Him, so it must be for us an abomination. I say all of that to remind us all that everything that God did in the beginning has a specific reason and bears on how we live and die. We have to accept the sad fact that our generations have come to be ones that call evil good, and good evil, and marriage is one of the blessings that have been turned into a curse by us. Marriage, an institution of God, that was holy and innocent and good, has been prostituted, and now is unholy, guilty and cursed because we have called evil good. We need to understand that the very first institution in creation was when God instituted marriage.

God put a period at the end his institution, which means that nothing is more important. Marriage was before civil government, and before the church or any other institution. Marriage as God instituted it was to be the pure fountain from which families were to flow, but because of Satan; and Eve’s willful disobedience, we now have come to the place where the fruit of marriage is, babies born out of wedlock. Families without heads, babies without resident fathers, and families suffering the curse of worldliness. God established marriage to have a couple (man and woman), become one flesh, and produce Children, which in a godly marriage are a blessing. So many in our day use sex as a play toy and we end up having to destroy the fruit of the womb.

We have come a long way since God did His work of Creation, and joined the first couple in marriage, and along the way we have willfully corrupted the blessings of marriage, that was instituted by God. We have not changed God’s method of marriage, and those who treat marriage as casual, as many in our day do, will be judged by God at the Great White Throne. We have so corrupted it that today nearly one in every two marriages end in divorce. Many in the world today have completely side-stepped Christian marriage, they simply become friend with benefits, or live together at times. Our corruption of God’s sanctity of marriage has not only confused marriage; but it also has confused families. Children that come from these less than godly marriages are like ships lost at sea in most cases.

We refer to these kinds of marriages as ‘shack-jobs,’ ‘living together’, ‘trial-marriage’ and all sort of things, but they are not what God intended for marriage to be. There is a reason that Godly marriage seem to be becoming a thing of the past, and it is because; for one thing the Church does not expend much time in speaking to congregations about Godly marriages. Another problem came along with the law that allows ‘no fault’ divorce. Another problem comes with the church losing the battles with the world for the minds and hearts of our young people. The final and greatest problem for marriage and just plain Christian living is that the Church, the Society, the Schools, the Courts and the Government have begun to allow the devil to rob us of the study of the Bible, and our adherence to it. Because of that kind of prevalent attitude, we have allowed Hollywood to slowly draw the curtain on the knowledge of good and evil. To be honest, we have to admit that America has lost its moral center, we are no longer a people who have traditional values, which were drawn from the Word of God.

We are steadily becoming people whose nature has changed and we are seeing the result in our election of people who are like us, in that they care nothing for anything other than winning an election and then not being statesmen, stateswomen, who have the good of the voters at heart. Take our supreme court for instance, they seem to have stopped doing their duty, which is to decide whether a law is constitutional or not. Their job is not to make laws, but it seems they couldn’t find the constitution and so they are in the business of making laws, most of which are ungodly and unconstitutionally. It seems that they have divided into cliques, feminist vs males, and voted their own desires instead of doing their jobs. One of the first things they did was to redefine marriage. Instead of God’s way, which is one man and one woman, for life, which is the way God instituted marriage thousands of years ago, now they have set God’s institution aside, and approved men marrying men and women marrying women. God only knows what they will foist upon us later. It is disconcerting to know that the President and the Democratic apparatus in America was all for it when it looked like they could gain a few votes.

I’m sure that there are some who read this that will think ‘..O, well, that was Old Testament and doesn’t apply to us in this society. Sorry, that is a pipe dream, because nothing God has said in the Old Testament is automatically set aside by the New Testament. Only the dietary and ceremonial laws were set aside. We know from Paul’s writings that “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.” (2nd Timothy 3:16-17). If we compare the Old and the New Testaments we find that Genesis 2:24 is reaffirmed in Matthew 19:4-6, and confirms God’s Design for marriage. God speaks to us through His Son Jesus Christ in Matthew 19:4-6 and says, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'”

So then, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Marriage is for one man and His wife (female) who become flesh to produce off springs. Is marriage and all that God says about marriage important to God’ Certainly, it is because we read of marriage in Genesis 2:24 and throughout the Bible, and finally in The Revelation we see there will be a great marriage in heaven.(Revelation 19:1-9). In marriage a man is joined to a woman for life as long as they live, through good times and bad, sickness and health, and then finally for those who have had an intimate relationship with Christ, and are members of His Church, will spend eternity married to Christ Jesus. We will close with a reminder of just how important Marriage as instituted by God in the beginning is evidenced in the Word of God. It is instituted in the Old Testament (Genesis 2:24). Re-affirmed by Jesus in the Gospels (Matthew 19:4-6), and revealed by the Revelation. (Revelation 19:1-9).

Let’s agree that we need to go back to God’s institution of marriage and work daily to do everything in our power to change what is happening in the world today as far as knowing the Truth of the Word of God and working to follow His plan for mankind in His World. Think on the things of Marriage and Family ‘

Until next time,

may God bless and keep you

This is Bro. Bob