Bible Lesson 210

THE FAMILY AS GOD DECREED IT – Part II

“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God created He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Genesis 1:27-28.

“At the bottom as it were of Roman society and forming its ultimate unit, was the family?The typical Roman family consisted of the father, mother, the sons, together with their wives and sons, and the unmarried daughters. The most important feature or element of this family group was the authority of the father. It would be difficult to overestimate the influence of this group upon the history and destiny of Rome. It was the cradle of at least some of those splendid virtues of the early Romans that contributed so much to the strength and greatness of Rome, and that helped to give her the dominion of the world.” Philip V.N. Myers.

This month we will look at one of the mainstays of any society, which operates as a society, and grants merit and strength to civilization. That of course being the family, as God decreed the family to be. We live in a time that demands that we constantly review and renew our commitments to God in both living, and obeying God as we know God, and understand what He designed and decreed for our own family to be. God created the World and everyone, and everything in it for a reason; and the reason was that we would love and glorify God as we lived lives that He had set in place for us. If we are Bible students, and every one of us should be, we know that God, decreed families in the first chapter of Genesis (Genesis 1:27-28), when He blessed Adam and Eve and told them to be fruitful and multiply.

Then in Genesis chapters two and three, God, first married them, and then they began the first family. Their family was born to a cursed earth, and all that goes with the curse, because they had eaten of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and were no longer innocent. It is very important that we remember that we are all born to the Adam that had fallen, not to the innocent Adam, before the fall. Their children were Cain and Abel, and we know that Cain committed the first murder in time, by killing his brother Abel, for which God sent him out from His presence to wander over the earth.

Cain produced children just as God intended, then Adam had another Son Seth who began to have a godly line of sons, who produced families just as God intended. You can read all about that in Genesis chapters four and five. I like to begin at the beginning, and that is the reason that I offer the above to show it was God’s plan in the beginning that mankind would be joined to one another in families.

Although the word family is not used in the beginning, we know that when a man and a woman consummate a marriage by becoming one flesh and reproducing, that they are planting a family. Family was the glue that God knew would weld humans together and make a unit that would make the family, the tribe, the village, and the state and nation stronger. We can argue that but we cannot but prove to ourselves and others that the family was important to God and should always be important to its members.

In the family structure God places one male and one female adult, joined in holy matrimony, married, committed and fitted to produce and raise children, at the head of the family. God never changes so we know that the male has been commissioned and decreed as the head of the family. Let me restate what I just said because we seem to have forgotten that God said in the beginning that the man must rule over the female, and they must jointly rule over the children that they produce.

I hope I do not sound too clinical in this lead-in to our lesson, but from all appearances today, we need to be reminded of what God demands in our families. I agree with Billy Graham who said about the family, “Apart from religious influence, the family is the most important unit of society. It would be well if every home were Christian, but know that it is not so. The family and the home can never exert their proper influence while ignoring the Biblical standard. The Bible calls for discipline and a recognition of authority. If children do not learn this at home, they will go out into society without the proper attitude toward authority and law. There is always the exceptional child, but the average tells us that the child is, what the home has made him. The only way to provide the right home for your children is to put the Lord above them, and fully instruct them in the ways of the Lord. You are responsible before God for the home you provide for them.”

We can look back to the time that God gave the Hebrew children the Law, and then went on to command them to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.” (Deuteronomy 6:5-6). If we think about that, we must know that God has given all of us a charge to raise at the very least, responsible and controllable, children. Some will think to themselves, well, I’m not a Christian but God gave us the Bible to make all of our children’s and the families of the earth obedient to His commands. Even if you are an Atheist, God meant the words of His Bible for you. God’s interest is in having a creation that works for every one of His creatures, and if we abide by His Words and His Will, life will be much easier and pleasant for all of us.

I can say that because I was raised in a family where there was a Man who was my father, and a woman who was my mother. They were married and had children and worked hard to provide a place we called home. I had one brother who lived and one who died. I also had two sisters. I can never recall having a thought about anything except my family. I went to school, and had friend and neighbors but they were simply friend and neighbors, my focus, my center and my hopes lay within my family. I was taught as were my siblings that the father was the leader and his final word was law in my family. My mother was his help mate and together (as one flesh), they took little and turned it into all that was needed to have a happy home. Home is where you go when the world seems crazy and nothing seems to work right for you. Home is a fortress and a place of solace and comfort.

Certainly there was always the city and the state and the nation; but they were strangers because my family was where I lived. I did not look to the city or state or the nation for my meals and for the family hearth, or for anything, for that matter. The family was all I needed to grow and increase and be happy. I feel sorry for families as they exist in many cases today. Some are children with two mommies or two daddies; how utterly absurd. Family structure as it was established and blessed by God in the Old Testament is still today, the same as it was then, and in Ephesians chapter 5 and verses 22, through chapter 6:9, we find it set forth when it Instructs “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord; Husband love your wives and be ready to die for her, love her as you love yourself; Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right; Bondservants, be obedient to your masters.” I recommend that you stop right here long enough to open your own Bible, and read that scripture, to gain a better understanding of the way families work the best.

We should be able to look around us and see that families in our time are troubled, fragmented, and broken. In the words of someone, in a broken nest are few whole eggs. We as a society have allowed drugs, sex, money, films, and television (among many other things) to draw us into lives that are fit only for hell. We have made or allowed our families to become dens of iniquity. Fathers and mothers fight and cheat and diminish the vows they made to God to cherish and support one another, and now there are almost as many divorces as there are marriages. Life is much easier in our day than it was some decades ago, we have more availability to food stuffs, more free time, more entertainment, more freedom, than our forefathers had but that loosening of access to ‘things’ have cause us to turn away from God who is the giver of all things, to the things that titillate us and entertain us. Hollywood and the Television have seemed to go into league with Satan and have deluged us with films that seem to recommend adultery, divorce, murder and mayhem. We seem to have been captured by this tsunami of filth and have signed on as if it were allowed by God’s law. We are becoming Satan’s demons and our homes are places of contention, strife, and unhappiness. God speaks to us in Proverbs 17:1 and says “Better is a dry morsel with quietness, than a house full of feasting with strife.” In other word, we live better when we have less but we are at peace with our families.

It does not surprise me that we have so many families in disarray today. We have all been at fault for the problems with the family, and mostly because we have forgotten what the family is supposed to be. Who can be faulted’ Almost all of us, from the family itself to the Church. Our schools have adopted a trend that includes teaching the ignorance of the child’s parents, to teachers having sex with children. Mothers and Fathers are at fault for not allowing their children to be children, and instead pushes them into adult kinds of games and play. The church has to take its share of blame also, because when a family comes to a church, most of the time the family is fractured by assignment. By that I mean that we have classes for marrieds, singles, some even have classes for youth.

In many cases the church schedules almost every bit of the time that families should be using to grow closer as families. The church which should be for educating adults to go forth and teach their families, their neighbors, and those that they have an opportunity to teach the Grace of God in substituting his Only Begotten Son Jesus Christ on the cross to pay the sin debt of those who will obey Him. But that requires first that we commit ourselves to churches whose main goal is to edify those who sit in its pews by preaching and applying the Word of God, just as God speaks it to us from the pages of the Bible. Worship services should be family oriented, and the teaching should reflect the plan of God that the husband has the responsibility to lead the family; the wife has the duty to honor the husband’s leadership; and the children are to be obedient to both parents. Certainly we recognize that those God created are equal in God’s eyes, but God has also created them different (One a man and the other a woman), and given them different functions, which is the man shall rule over the woman. To men who read this, don’t get too heady about God assignment of rule, to you, because you will also be held accountable for your headship. Why would marriage be so important to God’ Well, because it serves as a type of God’s relation with His chosen people Israel; and with His people who have submitted to Him through Jesus Christ and His work and Person on the cross for their redemption.

We know that is correct because adultery is viewed as the worship of other gods. (Jeremiah 3:6,8; Hebrews 13:1-6). The Second World War, with women replacing men in the work force while the men went off to war, probably lit the fuse on the feminist movement in America. That was in the 40’s and 50’s and the genie was out of the bottle, because some women were not satisfied to again be faithful to God’s plan for marriages. Then the feminist (women who wanted to be just like men), and who did not intend to obey God’s placement of functions for His creatures began to take advantage of their freedom, and the reality of judges and courts that were more into social engineering than they were into the law, began hearing all kinds of cases. Now, here in America we have a wave of women wanting to be men and men wanting to be women, and I don’t know how long God will tolerate this kind of rejection for His plan for mankind. I know for sure that this lesson will be read by many in foreign countries, and I pray that the men there will never get so politically correct that they will allow this same kind of role reversals in their countries.

The human race is not the human race as God created it without both man and woman, and it is not sustainable without each fulfilling the function that God created them for. Thank God that there has always been a remnant, that were faithful to know and follow God commands for His people, and there is yet a remnant in our time and God is still in control and will always be in control. We who are true Christians, and not masquerading as such, (as worldly church members), will continue to obey God and we will overcome the world. I can tell you for certain that God has not changed and He is not sanctioning any of these diverse and unholy, and unnatural sexual misadventures that we see others doing. God has said it, and it is settled in heaven, that in a Christian Marriage, the male will rule over the female. That rule is not a heavy handed and militant rule; because that would not be in accord with Gods commands in His Word. The male is commanded to rule, but He is also commanded to love His Wife as God loved the church, and no right-minded woman would ever object to that. There is not much that we can do about what has transpired except to not allow ourselves to be drawn into disobeying God. What we should do is to make sure that our marriages are such that they would draw the people who are marrying among us, to have it as a good demonstration of God at work in families. To set it straight, God knows best and He decreed that in that ‘one flesh’ that marriage creates, there is one head, and God has made it clear that it is the male that He will judge for not accepting that duty and exercising it in love as God has said.

America has become a country that has been taught to hate and fight and argue, rather than to sit at peace with one another, and work out family problems and even national problems. We will have to do that if we ever try by having husbands and wives that are caring enough, to sit and talk and resolve our problems rather than to divide up and choose sides and even fracture into little special interest groups. America is in trouble today, and it is being destroyed; not by enemies from without, but with termites within. Just stop to think about where our sorry political leaders have brought us. God put together a winning team when He instated marriage and God said marriage was between one man and one woman for life. Our politics and lack of real leadership has led us to the point that today a man can, and do marry one another. God said that all sin is offensive to Him, and yet we have a law that opens the door to, and even encourages the sin of homosexuality. God hates divorce and yet we are allowed to procure ‘no fault divorces’. Several years ago it would have been unheard of to put our females into combat, but they are today demanding it. God placed mankind on the earth to have dominion, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” God created and equipped and decreed that mankind would be His representative over the whole earth. (Genesis 1:26-28). Dominion, in a sense means to have control over, and man has ceded and failed to control himself, much less his surroundings.

Until next time,

may God bless and keep you

This is Bro. Bob